my news is mine. oh, mine & BBB's. hee. i am personally not big on making big announcements and things do stay that way. also there is a sequence of some kind on who gets told first that we are expecting a baby. so no, we haven't made any big announcements and don't intend to. as with many things i consider private, my pregnancy is not a public spectacle to be discussed along with the weather over a cup of coffee. significant people do find out as we go along, and i want to be the one to tell my mom, as i would hate for her to find out from somebody else.
the thing is, BBB and i live in a very catholic country, my family is very catholic (i have been a pagan since high school) and we are not married. and don't intend to. i haven't composed my reply to questions that might come, but no, not likely to get married unless we don't have a choice on something that will affect our baby. right now, the philippine family code allows the child of unmarried parents to carry the father's last name as long as he has signed the birth certificate. that is good. and the baby will get both philippine and british birth certificates and passports and those papers have no issue on whether the parents have tied the knot or not.
funny tho, that those furthest away get treated to the news first. Unicorn, my best friend who migrated to california ages ago was informed by text last january--she barely has time to check her mail, working full time and first time mother to Joaquin who will turn one this May. Kiwi is in kiwiland--okay, New Zealand--and she's pregnant too. two months ahead of me. and it was too insane to not tell her we were expecting too.
having seen BBB's parents in morocco, we have told them we are expecting, his mum complained that we are "sooo far away" while BBB's dad is already asking for assurance that we will have the baby in tow for june/july 2009 when he celebrates his 80th birthday. they asked if it was ok to tell the rest of the family in the UK. of course.
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